Dear reader, I would hazard a guess that, unless you're a shady government agency official or a spy handler, you probably don't create dossiers of the people in your personal circles, do you?
Well, I do. =P I have dossiers on all of my friends and family members!
Fear not, this is not nearly so (；ﾟДﾟ ) as it sounds. XP
These dossiers are (mostly '^^) all in my head. I just keep mental files, or collections of facts and memories and impressions, on the people in my life. Each file forms a rough sketch of each person — who I think they are and who they are to me — at any given moment.
Then, whenever I find out something new about them, I add it to their file. If they've changed their opinion on something or revamped a lifestyle habit or whatever, I update said file accordingly.
Now, precisely because my dossiers are mental dossiers, they're not always to be relied upon to match reality. '^^
You see, sometimes the hamster in my brain that is in charge of updating and filing and all that1 makes a clerical error, and the right change is made to the wrong file . . . or a wrong change to the right file . . . or a wrong change to a wrong file . . . or the change — right or wrong — somehow disappears before it even gets to a file . . . ah, you get the picture. XD And so I may or may not (totes do, absolutely) end up becoming very confused. '^^
Then, naturally, that confusion becomes evident in the most embarrassing of ways. . . . Because that's how these things work. (It's a natural law or something. >_<) Luckily for me, my friends and family members are usually quite forgiving about these sorts of things!
As it turns out, by the way, this whole dossier thing is not actually all that different from what John & Julie Gottman, prominent love researchers who have an actual Love Lab (they're the literal experts on love XD), have said is a good way to go about a relationship. They're usually talking about romantic couples, but I think it's applicable to any relationship. They advise thinking about everything you know about your partner as a "love map" that you build as you get to know them more and more. When you find out something new about them, or they change in some way, you update your love map.
You see? It's perfectly reasonable — desirable, even! — to keep detailed tabs2 on people. =P
(Not at all sus. *coughs*)
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His name is Mnemo (pronounced NEE-mo: the first m is silent; yes, it was a trial every time during roll call on the first day of school, the poor thing). His wheel is next to Graphe's, but he's so rarely there because he does so much running around all over the memory shanty. ↩
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For the record, I had my dossiers long before I'd even heard of the Gottmans, much less of their fancy-schmancy, science-backed love maps. =P ↩